Here is the hard truth: No one is ever busy. People make time for what’s important for them. If someone says, “I have to decline. I am busy,” that person is essentially saying, “You are not my priority.”
It can be sad. It also helps us to realize our value in someone’s life. It also taught me to evaluate the people on my list, people I care about.
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I quit saying “I am busy” many years ago upon learning this. If someone I care about asks for my time and I really can’t make time for him/her, I will reschedule. “How about some other time the day after?”
If I really feel something is not in my priority list, I will simply say, “My planner is full.”
When Abah got sick last year, I turned down many things from people I care about and say, “Family is my priority right now.” It gave me confidence on my life choice. It gained me respect from peers, because of that conviction.
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So next time you ask someone for their time and they can’t make it, but doesn’t offer alternatives, you know where you stand.
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Next time when you get invited or offered a chance and you think of answering “I am busy”, pause and ask yourself, ‘Am I really busy or I am closing myself from opportunities?’